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I am learning Spanish. I am active in such languages learning website as Italki and LiveMocha. I am helping my friends learn English with fun.

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Can you find real friends at language social nets在语言社交网可否找到真正朋友   

2009-12-10 05:35:48|  分类: 语言社交网 |  标签: |举报 |字号 订阅

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近两年我一直以来是语言社交网 ialki 和 LiveMocha (以下称该两个网)长期用户,虽然其间有约一年之休息,在此前后两年的时间我结识了不少朋友,最近我的好友 Judy 提出一个有趣的话题「在语言社交网可否找到真正朋友?」。

首先无可否认该两个网与美国Match.com 和中国Love.163.com之约会网性质不同,语言社交网朋友多是在世界各处一方, 在此种情况下很难发展真正友谊和朋友关系。话虽如此,我相信在该两个网可以找到真正朋友,尤其是在LiveMocha朋友在没有任何利益下为对方检查和修改作业,如果这不是真正的友谊我不知道什么才算是!

至于我的个人经验,我觉得来自墨西哥的Jose是我真正朋友中的真正朋友,他在我以前的博文常常撰写文章,最近他自愿为我在此用西语写了一篇一页长名为「中墨五千年一家亲」的文章,该文章引起我很多的西语朋友的兴趣。

另一个我的好朋友Jenny虽然我们是柏拉图式朋友但我们常分享我们感受及关怀,另一个我的好朋友是Jane,我常帮她检查作业,她很大方认我将有关作业放上我bzin1网站,她常常就该网站提出宝贵意见,另外还有Joseph虽然我们认识只有三天他己在我的Wordpress博文比其他人多发表评论,还有John不时与我们分享他喜爱的音乐。

以上有趣的地方是我提到以上的朋友的名字都是英文字母J 字头Judy,Jose,Jenny, Jane, Joseph,John,我可算跟他们有缘份。

I have been a regular user of the language social nets like italki and Livemocha (hereinafter referred to as the said two nets) for almost 2 years, although I was on a hiatus for over 1 year and became active again in October this year. During the period, I have made a lot of friends. Recently I came across an interesting topic raised by my good friend, Judy, as to whether one can find real friends over such nets.

First and foremost, no one would argue that the two social nets are not dating nets like Match.com or Love.163.com in the US and China respectively, the purpose of which are to serve people who are looking for dates or relationships. Whereas the purpose for the said two nets is for people to look for language partners usually from another part of the world. Under such circumstances, it is difficult to develop real friendship or a relationship.

Having said that, I think real friendship can be made over the nets like the said two nets. It is particular so in LiveMocha, whereby friends review the exercises or homeworks of other friend without any material benefits. A lot of my friends have gone through the trouble of going through the exercises I submitted in details and recommended ways as to how I can improve my language skills. I reciprocate the same by reviewing those of my friends. If that is not real friendship I don't know what is.

As for my personal experience, I think I have found, among others, a real real friend in Jose Antonio of Mexico, whom I met at italki, in about June of 2008. He was very supportive of me when I wrote a similar blog then. He used to contribute from time to time to my former blog. Jose and I had difficulties understanding each other and I think we still do as my Spanish was limited then and still is, so was and is Jose's English, but that did not affect our friendship. When I started this blog in about a month ago, without asking, Jose contributed a page long article entitled "The Chinese and Mayans were connected 5000 years ago" (my title), which has created tremendous interests among my Spanish speaking friends. To Jose, thanks once again.

Another good friend of mine is Jenny at my blog at 163.com. We share our personal feelings and concerns with each other from time to time, although we are only Platonic friends. Also Jane too at bzin1.weebly.com, I have been reviewing her English exercises. She is very kind to let me put up her works at my site for the benefits of my other friends. From time to time Jane gave me advice and inputs regarding the said website. Thanks also to Joseph which had written more comments on my blog at Wordpress than anyone, although I have known him for only three days. Also to John, another frequent follower of my blog, who shares his interests in music with me at bzin1.

As I write on, I notice one fun fact is that of all the names mentioned above, they all start with a J, Judy, Jose, Jenny, Jane, Joseph and John. I think it is what we Chinese say I have unspoken connections (緣份)with people's names starting with the letter J. My friends, if you are angry with me because I did not mention your name as yours does not start with a J, let me know. If that is the case I owe a big apology to you.

Another issue encountered by users of the said two nets is whether one should meet his or her friend face to face personally. It is unlikely that friends of the said two nets would meet face to face as most of them are literally world apart. If such situation arises, what is your position? Personally, I have reservations about meeting a person whom I  know over the internet. Nonetheless, I have met one of my friends, an Italian fellow, together with his wife, when they came to Hong Kong as tourists. They were an extremely nice couple and we had a nice coffee and a nice exchange of languages in English and Spanish.

As a man, I have lesser concern, or no concern at all, regarding my personal safety if I am to meet with friends of the said two nets personally. If you come to Hong Kong, I would be most delighted to meet with you personally and extend a warm Hong Kong hospitality to you. As a matter of fact, I have never had any bad experience with my friends on the said two nets. The same cannot be said of my female counterparts. A couple of them told me that they occasionally were being pestered or harassed by some so called "men friends". I think that is one of the negatives of an open communications system that one has to live with amid the many benefits that come with it.


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